Your child has a race car engine ADHD mind, and you were given no manual or proper driving lessons to learn how to manage, update and develop this incredibly high powered mind.
The good news is that not only can you learn how your child’s mind works, – this beautiful brain can be rewired to give your child the optimal output.
Science shows clearly that the mind changes the structures of the brain. When you reprogram your mind, you rewire your brain.
I use visualization-based cognitive enhancement derived from neuro-linguistic programming and hypnosis tools and methods with a coaching approach that helps you transform executive functions along with old and disruptive thoughts, emotions, beliefs into a new set of constuctive and supportive thoughts, emotions and beliefs.
In plain english that means:
When you learn how your child’s mind works and how to help change things on the inside, your child can slow down and speed up when he feels like it and not when his mind tells him to.
Your child can get a clear overview, structure in daily life and school, inner motivation, be able to create better plans – and actually follow them, set better goals – and actually reach them.
When you – as a parent – get the insights you need, you can help your child clear out the negative inner dialogue, stop the internal struggles and gain a more solid focus. And of course help your child transform his anger and frustration into focus and inner peace.
When you transform your own anger/frustration so you don’t blow up, you will be releasing massive amounts of energy ready for your own constructive and creative use.
The programs Transformational Parenting, ADHD Power Mind for adults and ADHD Teen Power Mind for teenagers are the fastest way to get started.
I share everything on the blog and on youtube, så feel free to go through the content to get all the methods and principles that I use.
Have a great and transformative day,
Anders Rønnau, PhD.
PS: Read below to learn more about me, what I do and why I do it, and make sure to read the manifesto to learn about how I came to be an ADHD Transformer and how you can become one too.
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“After a grueling experience with the children’s psychiatric system, it has been a relief to work with Anders Rønnau. Here our son is not regarded as a patient and our parental judgment is not questioned. Instead we are met as equal human beings who need help.
Anders immediately caught the expert-weary 8-year-olds trust, and they have completed a number of systemic conversations at a level I never thought would be possible. Where my son before felt controlled by his thoughts and impulses, he now understands that the control rests with himself.
It is the best foundation we could wish for, and I highly recommend Anders.
“Anders has given me the tools to address distraction and forgetfulness caused by ADHD.
When I started working with Anders, I spent 50% of my life looking for things that I had mislaid in a distracted moment.
After using Anders as a coach, I have become much better at focusing and being present, whether at work or in private life.
I highly recommend Anders as coach. “
How I Got Here
In 1968 Robert Rosenthal published research showing the socalled Pygmalion Effect, which states that when teachers expect students to do well and show intellectual growth, they do; when teachers do not have such expectations, performance and growth are not so encouraged and may in fact be discouraged in a variety of ways. Later came the Golem Effect which states that lower expectations placed upon individuals either by supervisors or the individual themselves lead to poorer performance by the individual.
When I first started working with people with the ADHD diagnosis, I knew nothing about ADHD, but I already knew a lot about coaching. And I was obsessed with the mind and the studies of massive physical changes in the brain that were being reported by neuro-scientist, calling it Neuroplasticity. And I was well aware of the Pygmalion and the Golem effects and their massive influence on how well my clients could transform what was going on inside of them.
When I read my first books on ADHD and the science and the diagnosis, I was severely underwhelmed. The diagnosis itself has a singular focus on behavior and not on what is driving the inappropriate behavior. There was no focus on everything that is going on “under the hood” inside the mind, the thoughts and the emotions. This is what’s driving the behavior. Without a focus on that, how can we change anything? Also the diagnostic manual only focuses on the inappropriate behavior, not all the things that the person does well and are able to do. Often better than others.
Based on the psychological effects described above, I made it clear to myself that I would let my clients show me if there was anything about ADHD that we could not change. I would not let my knowledge of ADHD come in my client’s way, so I did the opposite, and assumed that anything could change and that my client would show me the way. And they did.
During the years my clients have transformed mental strategies for time management, overview, handling stress and too many inputs. They have handled big emotions like anger, fear, frustration, anxiety, and so on.
This lead me to believe that everything we believed about ADHD was wrong.
Anything was possible. We just had to address it correctly.
Now, 9 years later, I have still not had a client show me where the limit for transformation is.
A lot of methods have been applied to ADHD to address it and minimize it, but most of them work in the paradigm of limited growth possibilities and very few of them address the underlying factors like thoughts, emotions, beliefs, identity and all the other things parts of the mind programming that have to be addressed for changes to happen.
The potential for transformation is all but untapped.
Let’s tap it together.
What I Do & How I Do It
You can look at a person from a number of different perspectives.
You can look at the persons behavior and what and who the person is interacting with.
You can learn about the persons thoughts and emotions and cognitive abilities – like executive functions and study abilities.
You can find out what the persons beliefs are – of himself and the world. What he thinks is possible and not possible. What does he think of himself.
And you can look at the identity of the person – who does he feel like he is.
So we have surrounding and behavior (which we can see from the outside). We have all the things that go on on the inside – like the thoughts, emotions, executive functions, beliefs, identity and so on. All the latter we can’t see from the outside, and typically the person can’t see them either because they are buried just below the surface of the sub-conscious mind.
But they are surprisingly easy to reach down and grab, lifting them out of the sub-conscious mind and into the conscious mind. Here we can manipulate and transform all these things. Easily. We do this in a conscious process where it is the person doing the work, not me. I am the coach (in the sense that I don’t advise), – or a catalyst if you will. There is no deep trance, but things pop out of the sub-conscious that people are often surprised to find there.
This is a good thing. If we did what you are used to, we’d get the same results that you are used to. Probably not a lot.
So we handle emotions like they were objects in our bodies, thoughts like they are little parts of our personality speaking their mind. And when we become very conscious of these emotions and thoughts, they become mental clay in the sense that they are easy to transform and mold into new emotions and thoughts. (Do this exercise if you want to experience it.)
My work is based on the Coaching Approach, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnotherapy, Narrative Therapy, Positive Psychology, Appreciative Inquiry, Systemic Theory, and inspired by countless researcher’s work, many of them frontline researchers or renegades within their fields.
I have had a lot of success staying with my clients after they have given up, changing tactics, using other methods, crossing methods and tools into whatever suits the situation. This all based on the mantra: “If what you are doing isn’t working do something else.”
“To see the world of ADHD and other diagnosis turned on it’s head by Anders has been a real privilege and quite an eye opener.
In his unique humble style he focuses on the person’s strengths and successes. With deep respect for their own perspective of reality, he challenges their convictions that they ‘cannot’ and helps them to re map and remodel their inner map of what they can achieve.
This is a huge help in my daily interactions with the students in so many large and also tiny ways.”
“Anders has an fantastic passion for ADHD and is an incredibly motivating teacher.
Anders understands the situation that parents face with a child with ADHD and his course gives you a positiv view of ADHD and fills you with motivation and tools that you can use every day.”
Who I Am
I am a Master Coach and HypnoTherapist specializing in ADHD since 2007.
I am the leading ADHD Coach and ADHD Coach Trainer in Denmark, and I have taught parenting programs since 2010 and ADHD Coach training since 2012. I have clocked more than 2500 coaching session hours with clients from 6 years old and up.
I focus on developing my clients’ cognitive skills and behaviors, in order to help them become better at managing their time, focus and temper, as well as rebuilding their self-worth.
My focus is on ADHD, however, I am happy to help differently wired people with Asperger’s, OCD, Tourette’s and other diagnoses – as well as ”normal” people with ”normal problems”.
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My mother worked in special education her entire life, and she had a gift for bringing out the potential of the children, she worked with. I remember her getting flowers from parents when their child against all odds had learned to spell correctly – or even returned to the normal class and level.
With me, she was always challenging me and my brain. Little word games before going to bed, the list of things to do that was always in its place on the kitchen counter. “If it’s not on the list, you don’t seem to remember it.”, I remember her explaining.
She gave me plenty of challenges by letting me learn how to read, write and to math before I started school, and then continued to challenge me at the level I was at – and not the level my class was at. She would give me extra math assignments when I got home, because I ran out of homework, just to keep me challenged and have me sit at the kitchen table with her while she cooked. She also let me run off to do all the different sports that I could find in my small town, always supporting every new craze I came across. I am so thankful that she was always there and sad that she died from cancer in 2012.
When I was 18, while I was in high school, I started working as a freelance computer programmer to pay for my windsurfing and to save money for traveling. When I was 20 and standing on a mountain top in Australia, I realized that in order to save this beautiful planet, I had to work in clean tech. By 29 I had been enrolled in Engineering studies then Physics studies (where I spent a year in beautiful Boulder, Co) – and finally got my Ph.D. in Applied Physics with two articles in acclaimed Science Magazine.
The week after that I started what corresponds to a Masters degree in Product Design from Denmarks Design School. By 31 I was a consultant in the creative industry in Denmark and I had a table in production with world famous Fritz Hansen.
By 33 (in 2007) I transitioned into full-time coaching.
One of my first clients was a 40-year-old designer and newly diagnosed with ADHD. I didn’t know a thing about it. I coached him for free for 6 months while he went from a failed designer with a lot of unfinished products to having several products on their way through production and having set up his business with a mentor group.
With the enormous transformation that happened to him, I had to dig deeper into ADHD, and since then my entire focus has been on helping children, teens, and adults transforming their ADHD into a power that serves them instead of them being under the control of ADHD.
Before I learned about ADHD, I was introduced to the Pygmalion Effect, which states that my expectations as a coach to what my clients can accomplish will frame the possibilities of change in the client. This means that if I don’t think that someone with ADHD can transform their time challenges, then I am actively (subconsciously) holding them back. So when I came across ADHD, I decided to let my clients show me where the limit for transformation in ADHD is. Almost 10 years later, they still haven’t shown me an aspect of ADHD that can not be completely transformed. Yes – including every executive function you can think of. And anger. And self-worth.
Do I have ADHD myself?
I don’t have ADHD. The last D is for disorder. I love my brain and I have no disorder.
I did however at times in my life have most (or all) of the problems that my clients come in with. And most of those problems are either in check or totally gone by now. (My wife may disagree on this. ;))
Before 2005 I was doing a lot of behavioral modification strategies to keep my focus, stay in school programs, stay in relationships, and so on. They worked, but having to get up and run in place, to vacuum, do pushups or go talk to people every 25 minutes to keep my focus on “Quantum Physics 101” was never a really good strategy for me. And it didn’t feel satisfying that I couldn’t just change it once and for all. From the inside out.
Strategies from personal development books and seminars helped me a lot. But things changed dramatically when I happened upon coaching and neuro-linguistic programming. Suddenly I was able to open the hood to the race car engine and change things from the inside out. This has proven to be much more effective.
With these methods, tools, and processes, I have been able to address every single aspect of my personal challenges. Still am. Work in progress.
I am married to Rikke with whom I have two wonderful daughters from 2010 and 2012.
We live in Denmark along with the rest of the happiest people in the world, and that means that we do things a bit differently here. We do actually leave our babies sleeping in their strollers outside shops and cafes. My wife had 12 months paid maternity with each of our daughters. And by 4 and 6 they are both driving their bikes to and from kindergarten (with me).
I am really glad that you are here. I hope to serve you and your family and help you on the right track to transforming your ADHD brain from the inside out. It’s better that way.
Look around on the site to figure out, what you need, get the newsletter, connect on social, and let me know what you need help with.
Have a great day.
Anders.
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I am no longer an ADHD Coach
I used to coach, consult, present and train – kids, teens, adults, parents, professionals. I don’t do that any more. This is why I have made all my material free for all to use.
This site has free resources to get you started and to experience significant results on your own.
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“Anders has worked with our 8-year-old son tackling anger issues that filled our entire family.
Anders got with his open and appreciative behavior quickly established a good contact and in a few times we saw a significant change in our son. His anger fits were not as violent as before and they became less frequent.
By observing Anders and our sons conversations, we became aware of the mechanisms that were at play in our son that made him angry. It gave us a better understanding of him. Overall we are more calm and and have more energy in the family, and we realized what resources and strengths our son has.
For families that are filled up with diagnoses, concerns and daily conflicts I can recommend coaching with Anders.”