Just recently I started a Youtube Channel called (no surprise!) Transforming ADHD.
This was my first video.
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The transcript below is unedited, so if anything is unclear, you might need to see my hand gestures and facial expressions! 🙂
Hi, guys! Anders Ronnau from TransformingADHD.com here.
If you have trouble or if your child has trouble with time, time-issues, being in a certain place in the right time and so on in this video, I’m gonna give you insights into what’s going on in your mind, in your cognition and I’ll give you an example of how you can not only remedy this but transform what’s going on there in your mind from the inside out.
So… as you see, I do things a little bit differently here. I don’t work so much with the behavioral transformation because I do believe that any transformation has to come from inside out to be really effective. What you learn is that when transformation comes from the inside out, is really easy to follow through on and when the transformation has to go from the outside in, as you know, it’s a really hard struggle, most of the time.
So, what I want to show you is… … when we transform the way we think about time and understand time in our minds, things are gonna be so different that we can’t NOT act differently.
So, the case study that I wanna talk you about is from one of my very first clients specifically my first client with the ADHD diagnosis. I’m a coach. I work with children from six years old and into their mid- s is the range I’ve been working in and… so, this client comes in. He’s years old he’s newly diagnosed, and he has trouble being on time always. You may know this from yourself or from your child or whatever, not being on time gives you… kind of gives you a lot of stress and it may harm your relationships in a number of different ways. So…
So, the guy comes in, my client comes in and he is… … he explains that he wanna be at his training session at o’ clock in the morning and usually, he leaves the house something like ten minutes before and it takes him minutes to get there, so he’s rarely on time. Sometimes, he even leaves at ! So, he leaves when he has to be there instead of leaving so he can be there on time. So, what he wants to do what I asked him about was “How do you think about time?” like, “how do you attempt to get out of the door in the way that you want to get out of the door”. And he starts waving his hands like this. He’s saying: “Well, I need my bag and I need to be at the club and I gotta get a bike and I need my socks and my clothes and…” And he’s waving his arms, pointing in all different directions and that immediately tells me that not only is he not very well organized, but it explains why even when he’s motivated to be on time, it’s still incredibly difficult for him. Because, if your cognition is… has like a random set up of things that you need to remember, then it’s really difficult. So, if you think about people who’s got their shit together, who knows about time and it’s always on time, if you realize or think about how they gesture, you’ll know that they’ll be doing like this. “Then I do this, and then I do this, and then I do this, and then I do this” so, in a way, they’re really showing what’s going on in their cognition is a very straight line process where everything’s in order.
If you do like this… things are not in order. It’s very chaotic, it’s random and you won’t really be sure that you got everything with you or that you’re on time and when not. So, I work with this client, and after… three sessions and when he comes back in for the fourth session, he comes in and says: “Well, I needed to be there at , so, that’s , here”. And he points! He says it pointing. So he points and he says: “Well, I wanted to check in minutes before, so I could go and get on my bike and I wanted to change my clothes before that, not after. So, before that, I take about five minutes so, I need to be there at the gym minutes before . The trips. The trip from door to door takes me minutes, so, I need to leave my house, walk out the door, before reaching where I’m going before o’ clock, right?”
And then he was like “And last time, we talked about packing my bag and I wasn’t sure how long it was gonna take so I did it the night before. So…
This is an example of an incredibly flexible and really perfect way of thinking about time. So, it’s all structured, he has everything laid out and he’s flexible enough to change his thinking about when to pack the bag. And instead of going “Oh, minutes before…” “Oh, damn! I have to pack my bag!” He has set off time aside and realized that that doesn’t look like enough time. He wanted to make absolutely sure that minutes before he was walking out the door, so he changed his timeline or what was on the timeline to incorporate him having everything in place and ready to go out the door minutes before .
So, this is an example of transforming ADHD from the inside out. When you do this transformation, it’s really easy to be on time. It’s really easy to get the logistics right and have everything ready in your bag at the right time.
I hope this give you some kind of insight into what’s going on, and also, specifically, what it means to have something transformed from the inside out.
I’m gonna be talking a lot more about that on this channel and hope that, if you liked this video, if you’re curious, if you got anything out of it, please, do give it a thumbs up and… subscribe on the button right beneath. So…
Also, please, if you’re interested in more about this, go to TransformingADHD.com and I’ll keep you updated on everything about transforming ADHD from the inside out.